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KJ's avatar

It’s that feeling when you have on something that’s just wrong… for YOU. I had in a dress the other day that I’d been trying to style right for over a year. I had unbuttoned the skirt, had workout leggings underneath bc I thought well I’ll try it as sort of an edit-up going to exercise, with these great clogs that I love… and decided, walking into HIIT, that I loathed it, even for this, totally didn’t feel like me, the waist was all wrong even though I loved the color and there was no reason to try any more. When I left class, someone said “what a pretty dress”… and I still put it out to consign. Just not a full me look and never was gonna be. (It was Cynthia Rowley not Tibi :))

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Susan Grant's avatar

I always felt so shallow if I missed a specific cue or visual that I wanted to communicate....It could really fuck up my day ......who would ever understand that? My brain and sense of self felt compromised . How can I be expected to take on new challenges and issues if I was not 100% my best self? Thanks for putting this into reality through your splendid choice of words and perfect pictorials......secretly I would love to be the woman who jumps out of bed throughs on whatever is nearby and useful and just takes on the day....... I could not do that and still be me....ouch! It will always be my cross to bear.......Your piece allows me some comfort ....

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Amy smilovic's avatar

Thank you for this. And to this point u can see that personal style is so deeply not shallow. Or frivolous.

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Katy Gaines's avatar

Loved this! Thanks for putting this feeling of “works” vs. “doesn’t work” into a practical, actionable concept. ❤️

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Kate's avatar

Ahhhh, I love this. I am finally in a place where my closet is getting the "hand gesturing everywhere" treatment and it feels so nice. Part of it is just maturing--- I know what feels good is going to look good and what feels good is what calms me---- what settles my eye. Ya know, once you get the composition and color down, the actual pieces matter less.

Also supports the idea of not being influenced to by the next "it" thing but holistically creating a look/wardrobe where all the pieces come together and the "it" is YOU.

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Tracy Pipkin's avatar

What are the specs of all black outfit ( vest / skirt ) ?

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